Jealousy: Wasted Energy or Relationship Fuel?
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I love that song by Fleetwood Mac.
“Every night I got to prove my love!” ~ random cat in The Five Heartbeats
For whatever reason, I’ve heard from various people that a little jealousy is good for every relationship. Apparently, everybody needs to have a little validation during the course of their relationship that their bf/gf doesn’t want to see them with somebody else.
I call bollocks on this.
I’m not a jealous guy. At all. This has often caused issues within my relationships because I’m a little too nonchalant. Fact is, jealousy is wasted energy to me. If you want to be with somebody else…poof, vamoose, son of a b*tch.
You betta leave, me alone, pack your bags, get the hell on.
But this does cause me to be ponderous. Most men and women contain jealous bones. The mere thought of flirtation on the part of their SO tends to rise their blood pressure to Kill-Black-People-Levels. And the twisted part about this is that this jealousy is a good thing. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t want to see my girlfriend dry humping some random cat on the middle of the dance floor while “Single Life” plays in the background. But that’s mostly because I’d be inclined to grab some random chick and do the same.
I mean have you HEARD that song? It just begs for dancing!
But the other reason is because seeing my girlfriend in that manner would just be the most inappropriateness of inappropriation.
Basically, I might have to slap a b*tch.
I’m not sure that I’d be jealous so much as pissed that my girlfriend would show that level of disrespect towards me. I think that’s where a lot of behavior that gets categorized as jealousy gets lost. It’s usually somebody doing something that is outwardly disrespectful or inappropriate and I don’t think that really has any place in a relationship. But some people like to know that the person they’re with would get envious of the attention another was receiving.
If you’re that insecure that you need validation that your SO really loves you, that’s problem number 1. B) if you’re one of those individuals who actually goes out and seeks inappropriate behavior just to get a reaction from the person you love, well you need Jesus, a box of Metamucil, and 2 2×4’s.
You’d think that if you fully trusted your gf/bf then the whole jealousy thing would be a moot point. But much like the study of Economics and prostitution, that completely rules out the human element of life. If you see some man buy your girl a drink, it’s quite possible that you’ll be pissed about it…at her for accepting a drink that YOU should have been buying her (remember that whole post about stuff like that) but really, what are you even pissed about?
And how exactly is knowing that your man doesn’t want another man buying you a drink going to strengthen your relationship? You see, inquiring minds would like to know this.
Or even further, what if you see some random trollop skipping around your man in a lace tutu and some black squirrel fur as she sprinkles glitter and unicorn dust on your man, and he’s really not inviting the attention but ole girl just can’t help herself. As the man in that situation, how does that further the growth you two are making?
Or does it?
My people, my people, does jealousy have any place in a relationship? If so, what good does it serve? And should ANYBODY be jealous of ugly people getting any attention from their S.O.?
Inquiring minds would like to know!
